On July 17 2017, Forbes Magazine published an article by psychotherapist and international bestselling mental strength author Amy Morin titled 5 Ways To Turn Your Mistake Into A Valuable Life Lesson.
She listed these as:
1. Acknowledge Your Errors
2. Ask Yourself Tough Questions
3. Make A Plan
4. Make It Harder To Mess Up
5. Create A List Of Reasons Why You Don’t Want To Make The Mistake Again
Under point 2, she reasoned: “While you don’t want to dwell on your mistakes, reflecting on them can be productive.
Ask yourself a few tough questions:
. What went wrong?
. What could I do better next time?
. What did I learn from this?
In conclusion, under the subheading Move Forward With Your New-Found Wisdom, she added: “Sometimes, mistakes aren’t just one big blunder. Instead, they’re a series of little choices that lead to failure. So pay attention to your errors, no matter how big or how small they might seem. And recognise that each mistake can be an opportunity to build mental muscle and become better.”
She is also the author of the bestselling The 13 Things Mentally Strong Women Don’t Do.
Following last week’s press conference called by South African football strongman Irvin “the Iron Duke” Khoza, where he came out with guns blazing and surrounded by his lieutenants, one would have thought that the league would have learnt some lessons from the reaction that followed.
If most of the reaction is anything to go by, this gathering was a shabby and failed attempt at PR.
It pointed to a number of shortcomings of the league that prides itself on being “the best in Africa” and “one of the best in the world”.
There are a number of fundamental things that are wrong, which the PSL should have realised and corrected by now.
It has long been pointed out that this thing of having a club chairman serve the league in the same capacity is not kosher and does not work.
It lends itself to serious conflict of interest and flies right in the face of proper corporate governance.
Also, the appointment of a club owner as acting chief executive officer (CEO) in October 2015 to date, rubbed more salt into a festering wound of conflict of interest and total disregard for corporate governance.
If, as the PSL would like us to believe, it was one of the best run in the world, the job of spin-doctoring and making the organisation smell like roses would be left to its marketing department.
The chairman would only concentrate on policy matters while the CEO saw to the day-to-day running of the structure.
Now a picture of the PSL vs Mamelodi Sundowns and their coach, Pitso Mosimane, has been created and the league is doing very little to dispel this notion except some empty utterances.
Instead of making things better, this week, after a peeved and obviously frustrated Mosimane vented: “You don’t know how many points you have in the bag; this thing takes too long. You can’t fight when you don’t know how much ammunition you have.
“Personally I’m not inspired by the league this year. Win or lose, it’s complicated; last year I thought we were still going through teething problems when you didn’t know how many points you needed to win the league.
“When you win the trophy and you walk around with it, you’ve earned it, but I don’t know what’s going to happen this year; it’s turning into something else.
“Rules are rules but deal with this thing as quickly as possible, man, there are a lot of mixed feelings.”
In typical Mosimane style, he added a rider that can easily earn him an honoris causa (pronounced Khoza) degree in sarcasm: “It’s okay, let the league go where it’s supposed to go. You know where it’s supposed to go...”
The league stooped to yet another low by hitting back via a veiled threat in the form of a PSL media statement titled Mamelodi Sundowns and fixtures, which was, lo and behold, issued by ... wait for it ... PSL media relations.
1. After last night’s Absa Premiership fixture between Mamelodi Sundowns and SuperSport United, certain regrettable comments were made.
2. The league does not generally comment on matters such as these, which must be dealt with responsibly and with the affected persons.
3. One aspect that must be clarified relates to the congested fixture list faced by Mamelodi Sundowns.
4. The congestion faced is the result of Mamelodi Sundowns’ continental success, which is to be celebrated. The league has, however, made every effort to accommodate Mamelodi Sundowns in very difficult circumstances.
5. The remaining Mamelodi Sundowns fixtures are on dates and times provided by the club in a proposal of March 25 2019, which is attached and was accepted by the league.
The league will not make any further comment on the matter.”
Would the PSL have attached the letter had it been from Orlando Pirates or Lamontville Golden Arrows?
Are all PSL members treated equally? Your guess is as good as mine.
Remember that the league chairman also once played a recording of John Comitis from a PSL executive meeting to the media at a briefing.
Then tell me that there is no conflict, or do I need my head examined?
It is sad that despite all his hard work and achievements, Mosimane has become a lone ranger, a position that pits him against the all-powerful PSL instead of being praised.
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