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Reader: Other than vibrators, what sex toys can I try?
Jade: There are plenty. Your options are almost endless, depending on how adventurous you are.
Why not try massage candles? A massage candle is a scented candle that, when lit, produces oils that can be poured on to the skin and used for a sensual massage.
Something a little more risqué would be butt plugs and anal beads or you could get yourself a sex swing. Visit your local adult store to view what’s on offer.
Reader: How do I become more sexual for my boyfriend?
Jade: I’m assuming you’re asking how you can become more kinky in the bedroom.
You can’t force yourself to be something you’re not. Don’t put too much pressure on yourself with unrealistic expectations. You should do it for yourself and not for someone else.
That said, our sexual desires and drives may vary from that of our partners.
Trying something new and different is always exciting and can be rewarding in terms of the pleasure you experience. Lingerie, toys and having your boyfriend watch you pleasure yourself may make things hotter for both of you.
It’s about your sexual expression – and not trying to be a porn star.
Reader: We haven’t had sex for more than six months. How do we get back into it?
Jade: What is your reason for not having sex for six months? If it’s just a rut from life and routine, I suggest date nights. Go to places with memorable memories for both of you.
Reconnect on an emotional basis with your partner to reconnect sexually. Encourage your partner to share their fantasies while you share yours.
Try to live out some of these fantasies to spice up your dormant sex life. Make time for each other that is purely about you as a couple without the disruptions of family, children and work. Good luck.
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